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Post by cwood85 on Sept 11, 2017 17:01:28 GMT -6
This is hard for me to put out there because I am having a real hard time with this. I have been praying and praying on this, but I could really use some extra prayers. What seems like very possibly being down to mere days of something (hopefully the the rapture!) very significant happening, I am really starting to get myself as right as I can with the Lord.
I haven't talked to my father in over a year. I know he is not saved (pretty sure anyways) and there is a lot of history prior to me not talking to him. I do not want to go into details because they are very personal and there is a lot of history behind all this. But it is bad. The circumstances and situation is really bad. My sisters have not talked to him for years, my youngest wishes him dead. I just want to clarity that this is not a pride thing or admitting anything about being right or wrong or whatever. I am simply terrified of how to even begin a conversation with him at this point. What do I say? He hasn't seen his grandchildren in over a year. Please please pray for me. I need to talk to my father. I am in tears trying to finish typing this.
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Post by watchman35 on Sept 11, 2017 18:53:02 GMT -6
Praying for you cwood85, that God would give you wisdom and courage and strength to do precisely what He would have you do...no more and no less. I don't have all the answers for you, but the thought came to my mind that perhaps you could approach your dad first by apologizing, if there is in fact any part of the situation for which you feel responsible (and there may not be), and then telling him you love him and forgive him for anything he may have said or done that has harmed you.
I will say, from personal experience, there is no guarantee that such an approach will be well received. When I extended forgiveness to my dad for living 30 minutes away from me and yet never interacting with me for some 15 years while I was a kid with a broken heart growing up, he got angry at me and said he had nothing to be forgiven for. Sin can be a very blinding slave master and the quest for self-righteousness a powerful tool of the enemy in enslaving people to a false sense of self-justification.
I would encourage you to remember this scripture: Romans 12:18 "If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men." The Lord only expects you to do what you can do. Walk in obedience. He does not hold you accountable for how your dad may react. As much as it depends on you means you do your part. If he refuses to meet you, you are in no way responsible for that and the Lord would have you to walk free of any condemnation IF that should be the way it plays out. Remember, the fear of man brings a snare, but the fear of the Lord is the beginning of all wisdom.
May the Lord lead you in paths of righteousness for His Name's sake. Let us know how things go. Very sorry for your pain. Weeping may last for a night, but joy comes in the morning. The Son of righteousness is rising, with healing in His wings. Soon He will return for us and the pain of this world will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory. Grace and peace to you.
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Post by katmak on Sept 11, 2017 19:11:57 GMT -6
Oh, sweetie! I too have a terrible dad. I am SO thankful for my Heavenly Father, who wanted nothing but my own good for all the days of my life.
Does your dad have email? It may be that using that means of communication might grant you a bit more control of the situation without having to actually chat to him via phone or in person. Perhaps if an email communique could be set up, you could discern whether a more personal communication would be at all fruitful?
If not, shake the dust from your feet, as the word says, chuck up your deuces and pray for him.
If you wish a more personal and private communication, I'll be the first to toss my hat into the ring and offer up a sounding board as well as share with you my personal testimony with regard to my walk with my shady dad, via PM.
I will be in prayer for you. Please let us know how you fare.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 11, 2017 19:12:38 GMT -6
In our prayers...
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Post by MissusMack08 on Sept 11, 2017 19:53:53 GMT -6
Or a heartfelt letter via snail Mail? Written in your own hand?
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Post by Gary on Sept 12, 2017 8:33:05 GMT -6
Prayed for you and your father on my hands and knees last night. I don't know all of the situation, but God is in control.
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Post by leewiggins63 on Sept 12, 2017 11:19:54 GMT -6
In my prayers, I'd just show up with those grandchildren.
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Post by whatif on Sept 12, 2017 15:17:34 GMT -6
I am praying for you, cwood85! May the Lord sustain you with peace, courage, and wisdom in this situation!
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Post by Rick on Sept 16, 2017 0:20:14 GMT -6
Dear sister cwood85 as I sat here and began to pray, this is what the lord laid on my heart almost immediately.... Psalm 91:1–4 (KJV 1900) 1 He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. 2 I will say of the LORD, He is my refuge and my fortress: My God; in him will I trust. 3 Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, And from the noisome pestilence. 4 He shall cover thee with his feathers, And under his wings shalt thou trust: His truth shall be thy shield and buckler. Father we humbly come before you and ask that you may restore the relationship between father and daughter. Lord let there be no angry words but only tears of joy. Father we ask that you touch their hearts in a way that no one else can Lord. Lord we pray this in the precious name of Yeshua Ha' Mashiach amen.
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Post by cwood85 on Sept 22, 2017 22:03:38 GMT -6
Thank you thank you thank you everyone for your prayers 💕 I am so deeply humbled by the love and kindness in this group.
I called my father yesterday morning and the conversation went well. We just talked. No apologies or anything, just caught up for almost 2 hours on the phone.
If the Lords will is to come soon, I am at peace with knowing in Him I had the courage to call my father. Only in Him ☝️
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Post by watchman35 on Sept 23, 2017 6:53:05 GMT -6
Thank you thank you thank you everyone for your prayers 💕 I am so deeply humbled by the love and kindness in this group. I called my father yesterday morning and the conversation went well. We just talked. No apologies or anything, just caught up for almost 2 hours on the phone. If the Lords will is to come soon, I am at peace with knowing in Him I had the courage to call my father. Only in Him ☝️ God is good. Thank you Lord for Your grace at work on behalf of cwood85. Rejoicing with you for God's kindness in your life.
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Post by whatif on Sept 26, 2017 21:52:00 GMT -6
Praise the Lord! That is very good news, cwood85!
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