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Post by sawdy on Oct 31, 2022 20:14:58 GMT -6
My son is now 16 and things haven't been going well for awhile with him.
He refuses to do school work and when called out on his lack of progress, his opposition and defiance kicks into overdrive.
He left and spent a week in September at my mom's. Today he fought my husband after my hubby had enough of his behavior (we have been trying to talk and reason for years) and smashed my son's cell phone he bought this summer. (We never wanted him to have a phone)
All this has escalated into my son left the house and my husband has changed the door code and has said our son isn't welcome back into our home.
So prayers for my son to soften his heart and be willing to accept help and criticism. Also prayers for him to realize that I am not a bad mom because he literally despises me for not letting him not me accountable for his actions and choices.
Also, I have been quite ill over the last few months. Last week I had 4 units of blood because I didn't realize I was so severely anemic. So the stress from his constant emotional opposition and his defiance has been more that I would like to deal with. So prayers for me as well for my hemoglobin levels to not plummet again.
I've been praying for years that I didn't wish for him to follow the path of the prodigal son but he has driven us to the brink to where my husband has had enough (and kicked him out) and with me and my health, I'm not inclined to fight my husband's wishes. I'm tired of my son breaking my heart constantly and I just can't keep fighting the same battles and getting nowhere.
Thanks. 🙏
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Post by mike on Nov 1, 2022 7:00:14 GMT -6
Dear Lord may Your abundant grace fill sawdy's heart today as she goes through this trial. May her heart be fixated on You knowing that as she and her family endure, You are there all the way to the end. Please have mercy on Sawdy's son, opening his eyes wide to see the light of Christ and the darkness of this world. That his heart would softened to You, Your ways and the only truth available. Please also help Sawdy & her husband to take a breath and rest in You. We know that the times are wicked and sometimes we are distracted by the wind and seas roaring around us. Please remind us oh Lord that when we focus on the issues, we begin to sink like Peter did when he took his eyes off of Jesus. And also Lord for Sawdys illness in her body. We are asking You to regulate her blood or give her the remedy or how ever You determine to alleviate this issue for her, we petition Your mercy for this situation. You are not required to heal, however we know that You are our benevolent God, watching over Your children. So as one of Yours is ill in her body we ask You to move in her situation. May everything be done for Your glory and honor heavenly Father. That in sickness, or hardship we would always keep our hearts and minds on You Lord.
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Post by Natalie on Nov 1, 2022 7:17:05 GMT -6
I will be praying for you.
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Post by boymaker on Nov 2, 2022 12:08:12 GMT -6
Sawdy, I will pray for your family. It is very difficult to know when to draw the line with our children, and to make those difficult decisions that cause separation.
Please know that this is happening EVERYWHERE. I cannot wrap my head around the number of parents I have spoken to who are in the same boat.
This year, my eldest son got married. His fiancee, while a Christian, is very immature and does not like us. I believe it emboldened our son to decide that he no longer is a part of our family, aside from obligation. So, after appealing to him in every way that I knew, I called him out for his treatment. He chose not to respond. It has been almost two months.
This is an absolutely unexpected development and we have been grieving deeply.
We are told that in the last days, this will happen.
My son was hired by the government during the plandemic in 2020 and the seeds of dissension began to bloom. He feels that we are ignorant and emotionally unhinged. He tried to pressure us into the experimental treatment despite our health issues. His parent has become the hand that feeds him.
The answer is only ever God. But God is allowing this, IMO, to fulfill His prophecies.
In my prayers, I take off bitterness and put on joy. I ask for their success and their health. I find things to be grateful for, like that he is loved and has this experience in his life. He was a good man. A committed Believer. He became an apologist. But then, his greatest character flaw, hubris, was exploited and it tore us to shreds.
The enemy is getting in His last lashes as the days wrap up. He can hurt us, but he can't kill us. It sometimes just feels that way.
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Post by sawdy on Nov 2, 2022 18:04:20 GMT -6
Thank you for your prayers mike and Natalieboymaker I am very thankful that my son made the decision to believe in Jesus and later to be baptized. Through this storm, I am trying to seek comfort by holding onto that buoy. Although my family chose to accept the protocol for Covid, I do understand how it has caused division. I have at least three family members that didn't take it. I really just feel like that whole situation was a way to create more division between us in society. As for my son, I pray that he is able to seek and turn to God during all of this. He doesn't want to understand what tough love is and is blaming us and saying we are playing mind games. It is really hard to sever ties but I am unable to let myself be manipulated and walked all over if we don't hold firm to our position that he cannot return home. I just pray that the Lord doesn't tarry too much longer as I would like to have my family back together and that is not possible until we reach heaven.
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Post by sawdy on Mar 17, 2023 19:46:37 GMT -6
Thank you all for your prayers. Good news today. Events transpired this week that helped my son to realize he was missing his life at home and his sister and parents. It will be an adjustment as we navigate moving forward together as a family but as of today he is living once again in our home.
It was fairly sudden and he was pretty excited to come home today and not tomorrow as he didn't want to miss youth group as he was unable to attend while he was away.
I am so thankful that my son is back home and able to once again be grounded in his Christian faith at home, at Youth, and on Sundays at church. 😍
We are humbled as we know we also made mistakes in our parenting but we are trying to be an encouragement and help to him (to see that he can make a path forward and forge onwards to complete high school).
I love when prayers are answered. Blessed be the name of the Lord!
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Post by Gary on Mar 23, 2023 10:30:00 GMT -6
sawdy, I'm so thrilled to hear the news. Thank you for the update and I'll continue praying.
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